Your divorce is in the past, you’re moving on with your life and you’ve dedicated yourself to providing your children with the best life possible in the future.
There’s only one problem: Your ex isn’t as interested in co-parenting as you are.
If you and your ex can’t seem to get on the same page in regard to co-parenting, here are some tips you can follow to help prevent future arguments:
- Cut back on communication: Outside of the essentials, such as planning drop-off and pick-up times and dates, keep communication to a minimum. When you must communicate, find a strategy, such as text messages or email, that works best for both of you.
- Let it slide: Don’t get into the habit of turning every disagreement into an argument. If your ex does something you don’t agree with, take a deep breath and let it roll off your back. It’s a difficult adjustment to make, but it’ll improve your ability to successfully co-parent.
- Be proactive: If you see a problem coming, such as a scheduled visitation date that won’t work for you, talk about it as far in advance as possible. Waiting until the last minute to deal with potential problems typically leads to more arguing.
There’s no guaranteed way to avoid arguments when co-parenting. Even if you get along with your ex, you can expect to disagree with one another every now and again.
If your arguments are the result of an ex who doesn’t want to cooperate, learn more about your legal rights and whether you can modify your child custody agreement.